Hello everyone! If you follow me on Instagram you know that my one year anniversary was on Saturday. As I went through our wedding photos (that I still haven’t ordered, by the way) I reflected on our relationship. I would say that I reflected on our first year as a married couple but, honestly, not much has changed.
My husband and I have been together for six years and we have gone through a lot together. We sold all of our belongings and moved to a different country, we’ve endured distance, struggled to make ends meet and the grueling process of him becoming a citizen was no picnic.
His best man gave a speech at the wedding about how hard we’ve fought to stay together against all the odds. I’d never thought about it that way before, but it was nice to see it through his eyes. When we fight about stupid things now I think about that.
When we were on our honeymoon, a couple on the same Jurassic Park tour we were on told us,”The first year of marriage is the hardest. If you can get through the first year then you’ll be fine.” I can’t say that I particularly agree with them; this past year definitely wasn’t the hardest. Was it easy? No, but life isn’t easy.
We laughed it off when they told us that but the couple insisted, “You have no idea. It’ll test you.” I think relationships in general test you because you’re sharing your life with another human. You’re going to have disagreements and sometimes you won’t get along because, you know, they’re a different human than you.
I think the real test would be having children. Definitely not ready for that.
Even though we’ve been married a year now people keep asking me how married life is. Honestly, nothing has changed except my last name. We’ve lived together for six years and we’ve always shared money.
The hardest part for us is making time for each other. He’s a full time student with a full time job and I have a full time job too. There are days that we barely see each other but we make an effort to take time out of our week to do something just the two of us. Whether it’s watching a TV show, cooking dinner together or sitting down to talk over coffee, any moment we spend together is important.
What have I learned during out relationship thus far? Communication and respect are key! Your partner isn’t psychic; you have to tell them how you feel and what you think. And there has to be a mutual respect of each other. If you don’t respect them then you aren’t going to care about their feelings or thoughts or how your actions affect them.
All in all our first year of marriage has been great! Here’s to many more to come!
Thanks for reading!