It’s my birthday today! Hello 29! I’ve seen this post floating around so I thought I’d chime in too!
Here are 29 life lessons I’ve learned, in no particular order:
- Make time for yourself. Whether it’s meditating, watching TV or working out. Do something for yourself by yourself every day.
- Make time for your loved ones. It’s so easy to get caught up in the hectic day-to-day that you forget to appreciate those around you. Spend five minutes with a loved one. It’ll be like a therapy you didn’t know you needed.
- Call your family (whoever you consider your family to be). They want to hear from you and they love you. Even if it’s once a week for a few minutes call them and tell them that you love them.
- Listen to stories from your elders. It’s the only glimpse we have into a past life. I love listening to my grandmothers stories and how she met my grandfather. I just wish I would have realized this when my grandfather was still alive.
- You can’t please everyone. Well, obviously, right? I’m a people pleaser and I spent a lot of time trying to make everyone around me happy. You know what taught me that was stupid? Living in Vegas. I know, it took my that long. But, people are selfish and demanding. If you spend your life trying to make everyone else happy the unhappy one is going to be you.
- Love yourself. I spent a lot of my life putting myself down and unhappy with who I was and then I was surprised when my relationships weren’t working. Learn to love yourself, it’s the most important relationship you’ll ever have. Then the love of others will come.
- It’s okay to fail. Failure makes us grow. If you never face hardships you’ll never improve as a person and you’ll never appreciate what you have.
- Believe in yourself. I’ve never been a very driven person. A past experience left me defeated and I gave up on everything. After that I gave up on myself and stopped striving for things. I didn’t try in high school, I didn’t try in college, I didn’t try after college. I gave up on myself. Don’t give up on yourself! Believe in yourself and push forward! Which brings us to…
- Work hard. Nothing worth having comes easy. You don’t have time to work out? Wake up at 5am. You want that promotion? Take initiative and ask for more responsibility. Teach yourself a new skill. Take an online class. Put in the work and results will come.
- Travel. See the world. Learn about other cultures. If I’ve done one thing right in my life it’s that I traveled the world. I’m not finished! There are lots of new places I want to visit and lots of places I want to return to. Some of my best memories are from traveling and I wouldn’t trade those for anything.
- Write things down. I kick myself for this now, but I didn’t journal when I was traveling. Some memories are beginning to fade. What was I thinking about when I’d sit on the beach in Barcelona? Where was my favorite gelato place in Siena? How did I feel when I reached the top of that mountain in Huangshan, China?
- Take pictures. Even if you look like shit that day, take a picture. Pictures are an amazing way to preserve memories. You don’t have to post it on social media. Keep it for yourself. Cherish the memory.
- You only need a few great friends. In middle school I really wanted to have a lot of friends and I was concerned with the “popular crowd” liking me. I wanted to be friends with everyone. Then I met my best friend and all of that changed. Mutual weirdness forever. Now, I can count my friends on my fingers and I wouldn’t trade any of them for the world.
- Friends aren’t always forever. When I was in high school my dad told me that I wouldn’t talk to most of my high school friends as an adult. I told him he didn’t know what he was talking about (as teenagers do). Boy, was he right! My best friend has been my best friend since 6th grade. But the rest of them? I talk to maybe five and only occasionally.
- Cherish the friends that you do have. They made the cut for a reason, don’t forget that. You don’t have to talk to them every day or even see them every week. Call them, talk to them, message them, just let them know that they’re important to you.
- It’s never too late to reconnect. I’d lost touch with a few great friends after traveling and life in general. I felt so guilty that I didn’t try harder. I reached out to them a few years ago anyway and it was like nothing had changed. True friends are there forever, even if you did lose touch.
- It’s okay to be heartbroken. It’s inevitable. It will happen and it will suck. It will crush you in a way you never thought you could be crushed. But guess what? You’ll survive. Every single time, you’ll survive.
- Relationships take a lot of hard work. Life is difficult and that includes relationships. In the movies you see the love story but not the every day. They take constant communication, compromise and trust. If you’re with the right person it’s worth it, but, like I said, nothing worth having comes without effort.
- Haters gonna hate. Don’t let people make you feel guilty for doing what you want or what you like. They’re entitled to their opinion, but don’t let it get to you. It’s just that, their opinion.
- Compliment others. Every day I make a conscience effort to compliment someone. Whether it be a stranger on how good her hair looks, a coworker for a job well done or a friend’s outfit choice. You don’t know what kind of a day someone is having and giving them the smallest of compliments could completely make their day. I know I feel great when someone compliments me. Share the love.
- Be kind to others. I know we all learned this in kindergarten but not a lot of people seem to remember. I think everyone should have two jobs in their life: customer service and serving tables. If everyone had these two jobs at some point the world might be a better place because what you learn is that people can be mean and awful. I know that I would never want to treat someone the way I have been treated. Just be nice to others. They didn’t wake up and decide to ruin your day.
- Meditate. I wish I would have listened to my grandmother about this one. She’s tried to get me to meditate since I was a child. I didn’t actually start until late last year and it has truly changed my life. I feel calmer and happier.
- Fitness is important. You only get this one body so you should take care of it and make it stronger.
- Nutrition is more important. When I was in college I thought I could eat whatever I wanted and as long as I worked out I’d be fine. Wow was I wrong. What you put into your body is more important than any work you do in the gym.
- Stretching isn’t a waste of time. I’m not gonna lie, I really thought it was. I hadn’t stretched since gym class in high school. No wonder my flexibility is gone. I’ve started stretching recently (after a lot of research) and it really does make a difference with how my body feels.
- Educate yourself. Knowledge really is power, but don’t just listen to one person’s opinion and take it as fact. It takes effort and time to put into educating yourself about things but it’ll be worth it in the end. Educate yourself about what? Whatever you’re interested in! For me it took some research into nutrition for me to really get the ketogenic diet right.
- Experiences are more important than things. Life is made up of experiences. Things won’t last forever, they’ll break or go out of style or a new model will come out. But an experience stays with you forever.
- Get a pet. No one will love you as unconditionally as an animal. As much as I love my husband, nothing compares to the feeling I get when my cat sits on my lap and looks into my eyes. Pure love.
- You’re stronger than you know. Don’t ever let someone break you.